Friends, First Lights

He misses them every day.  

He asks almost daily to watch the video I made of all his friends.

I always like watching his face when he watches the video.  I can't imagine what is going through his mind.  

Lately it's apparent he assumes some of them will be here eventually, because life just wouldn't quite make sense if he never saw any of them again.

Imagine your own child joining a new family somewhere far away and being forever separated from everyone they loved and who loved them.  No matter how much they were loved and provided for there would be a piece of them that would never quite be. . . complete. . . settled. . . 

Even though he doesn't know about our plans, he says things like, "When J here, she get shots, I tell her don't cry," or "M like to tickle Daddy too."

Since he's been here he's said things like that, and done things such as setting a couple potato chips aside and saying "Dis for Bernadi," or "Babachu like dis."  (Babachu would like this, too)

I think in his little mind it's as though being forever separated from what once was (or who, rather) would not make sense.  And them being here sometime does make sense.

Little sweetie pie.

I know that his 2 friends becoming his sisters is not the ticket to wholeness.  There is so much more.  And ultimately, it's something only God can do.

But, we are anxious for the day when more can join our family!!

On a not-so-somber note, Duncan is enamored with Christmas lights and has told Rick almost daily, "You put lights on my 'ouse Dad!"

Who could resist that--a 4 yr old experiencing all this for the first time.  So, I took him to WalMart, and we found blinking stars.  2 strands at $10 each was enough, and as soon as I put them up he oohed and ahhhed.

Then he immediately told me we need more stars. :)

There's a gift idea, Grandma Pam! :)

Here's a video of Duncan calling Grandma to come see his star lights.  You can see how quickly his English is coming along.  He's been talking in sentences like this for months now--it's nothing new!  He is even more fluent in person--when he's on the phone he's thinking too hard I think. :)

Notice the glitter on his head--proof of a successful trip to the Christmas section at WalMart. :)

Translation at about 30 sec in--he says "I did not want ask Fallyn's pig--I willn't."  

He is saying he will not tell Fallyn about her pig.  He found a tiny glass pig at Pier 1 for her gift.

And at about 1:25 he is trying to tell Grandma about the "Christmas snow" ( i.e., snowflake--which he just learned that word during our WalMart run) lights.  He got to push the button on the snowflake lights and watch them blink in the box.

Christmas things are super fun this year. . . it's so fun to watch his excitement and wonderment.